Ecclesiastes 6:14:

A faithful friend is a strong defense: and he that hath found such an one hath found a treasure.

Every woman wants a true friend.  But finding such a friend can be a lifelong pursuit.  Females search among many  women- making mistakes of her trust and treasures along the way. "Oops"' she says to herself - "I don't think we are on the same page here - better move on".  And so she does, sometimes to no hurt on both sides, sometimes with plenty hurt equally.

Still some are more affected by it, than others, based on their personality types.  The Sanguine woman is a people person and she needs the support and friendship of many friends fo laugh and cry with.  The Melancholy woman not so much, she is focused inwardly and analyzes all her conversations doubting herself and others motives.  The  Choleric woman is a strong leader who needs friends to bounce ideas off of. The Phlegmatic woman is a loyal and true friend often of the other types of personalities. Once made a friend - they stay a friend, 

In my life I have found many friends that were brought into my life for seasons - not for life.  Some remain in my heart and are remembered fondly, as life and circumstances caused our paths to grow apart,  Others it's with pain when I think of them, for their actions towards me were unjust and betraying. I personally have found a handful of friends in my lifetime. And not all of them are for the same reasons.  Some are in the same line of work as I am, my peers,  Others are at church and we do ministry together well. Then there are personal friends to mention - that have nothing to do with work - just good to be with during life's ebbs and flows.  

I have tried to be friends with women who snubbed me, or ignored my tentative reaching hand to them,  And on several occasions I have had special planned events and invited  women to attend - which they did for several years in a row.  But all to no avail - they never called, or reached back for me.  So I stopped trying - it was pointless in this particular group.  And so I know about trying to find good friends. And sometimes family members are not the right choice for a good friendship either.  Too many other issues   

But the  heart of a woman continues to look for a friend to share good and bad with.  So..... how to find one?

1.Ask God to be your friend.  And then be aware when He is! 

2. Be open to new women you are introduced to. Don't ignore them - they might prove to be the best friend ever!

3. Be a friend  to those who are around your life right now.  Start where you are - not with empty words and cards, but with actions.  Then see how they respond back to you.  It might be a mutual connection. 

4. Stay true to your character - it's the most important part of finding the right kind of friend.

Your friend.....

Gayla Holley

Comments

[deborah]

I think I've found 1 or 2!!!!!

Love you..