Written By: Deborah R.
Have you ever thought of yourself as a strong independent person who has the where with all to have a balanced fulfilled life? Have you once thought that you had life all planned out and you knew what you were doing and where you were going? Did you ever think you had the perfect life of a relationship with God, a husband, two kids, a dog, house with a fireplace and a boat? Have you ever experienced something so life shattering that you thought you would not live through it? Have you ever thought that you were thrown to the sidelines by life and by God? If your answer was yes, then your life was probably shattered by these words... ”I want a DIVORCE.”
The moment I heard those words, my entire world began to spin out of control. Angered and shocked by the initial blow, my emotions and reactions went over the edge. I couldn’t even think of anything. My mind reeled in every direction and I wanted to just escape the moment. What ever it took, I had to relieve the pain for it too unbearable to swallow. What would my family think? What would my friends think? What would my church family do? What about my kids? …What did I do? …What did I do that was so wrong?
These are the questions that would plague my mind for untold days and hours; a simple sentence that would send me in and out of an emotionally dark place time and time again. There was no way to prepare for that moment. There was no way I could have prevented that moment either. It was only later that I found out that it wasn’t something I did or didn’t do. It simple was the unfaithfulness of man and the lust of another woman. I would have never thought that after 13 years together, we would ever be apart.
That day was not a good day. If it hadn’t been for the faithfulness of a friend and her direct words, I wouldn’t have had the direction to make it through that day. Many days have come and gone since then and, “I only know that God takes horror and turns it into unspeakable heaven!”
You may have experienced or be experiencing the pain of divorce. I can tell you that there will be days that are tough, days that are good and days that are indifferent. To be able to live once again, you will have to go through a healing process. Sure, pain is involved but on the other side pain is joy. There is a new you waiting to be revealed. A stronger, more compassionate, more understanding you that will blossom so you will one day turn and help another sister who will be in the same shoes that you once wore but now have outgrown!
People say that divorce is a death of a marriage. The death of a love that now leaves an empty space in your very being. I choose to think of divorce not as an empty space void of love but as an opening in which a new beginning can take place. After all, there was a Death, a Burial and a Resurrection! So to you who have been through or are going through a divorce….Happy Resurrection! This is the beginning of the rest of your life!
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