It was my birthday and the empty card arrived. I was instantly angry. I knew that on my sisters birthday she had received a big whopper of a check and so did her children. And once again nothing for me. I wonder what makes a man decide not to love his daughter. Am I a disappointment? Not successful, smart, or pretty enough. Was there something at birth that made me unworthy of his love somehow? I turned forty this year, you would think I was over this, but each new rejection brings the same old question. What did I do to warrant such treatment from my own dad? What could sever the parental connection so completely? It makes me wonder, if my own parent can't love me -who can??
Then I think of my husband. He is also an imperfect father, however he stayed through the good times and the really bad times. Our children never had to earn his love, because it was given freely. My children have a daddy that always has a kind word and good advice. Someone who will listen to a teenage girl ramble on about the boy of the day. He inspires them to reach for more in their lives, and is patient if they can't reach it yet. He is a firm disciplinarian, but will protect with his own life. I think about our lives and know my children are blessed. A father has the power to bless or curse with long ranging effects, but a daddy helps you grow into who you will become. I guess its time to finally put this hurt little girl away and grow into the woman my Daddy created me to be. My father may choose not to love me, but my Daddy chose me long before I knew him.
What about the next generation of children? Divorce is commonplace. Parents leave never looking back on the carnage left behind. This is the new rule, not the exception anymore. How many kids are growing up feeling unworthy, unloved, rejected, forgotten or invisible? Or how about those replaced by the "new " family. America its time to rise up!! These little people are our responsibility. Not just our children -ALL children. I want to challenge you today to reach out and touch a child's life. We as Christians are supposed to imitate Jesus Christ right? I can't imagine that he is happy with the state of our affairs. A small kindness can go a long way to a love starved child. If you carry that hole in your heart, I would like to introduce you to my Daddy. His love is pure. He will fill that empty place with joy, and purpose. The best part for me is he doesn't change his mind.
Psalm 68:5,6a Father of the fatherless, defender of widows this is God whose dwelling is Holy. God places the lonely in families He sets the prisoners free and gives them joy